Expect the unexpected


This daily prompt actually happened to me this year. 

Unexpectedly, you lose your job. (Or a loved one. Or something or someone important to you.) What do you do next?


I told my parents in late 2012 that I have secured a job in New Zealand and was planning to emigrate. They were shocked, devastated, but happy for me nonetheless. 

I was forced to move much earlier that I expected and in little more than 5 months after first conceiving the idea, I was on a plane on a one way ticket to the other side of the world. Alone. Hubby had to stay till the UK house was sold. 

4 days after my arrival in my new homeland, my mother was diagnosed with cancer.

She chose not to worry me with this news until my husband joined me 10 weeks later. It was a bold from the blue, as it wasn’t something that ran in the family. At that stage she was hopeful for an operation and a 100% recovery. She died two weeks after she broke the news to me. I had booked a flight to return but my plane simply didn’t fly fast enough. She died before I arrived back. 

I will shorten the story, but it has been a very tough 2013, let me just say. I didn’t expect to waver her goodbye promising to return soon, for it to be for her funeral. I didn’t expect to be carrying my mother to her resting place as a pall bearer less than 2 months after seeing her last, alive and well. 

What has that meant for me?

I have lost my way a bit, it has been a tough ride. I have battled many things, but wasn’t ready for this steam roller. But, life still goes on. So now I have a new motto

There is no tomorrow, only today.


I do not want life to be stolen from me in the same crude sharp way, and to be able to say I wish I had……

I want to make sure I do not waste a moment. You only have one life, there is no time to waste. 

I offered to return to the UK. My father said no, the move had been a great decision for me. Instead he is coming over soon to visit. He hasn’t been anywhere in the world other than UK and Canada (I don’t think). He has been warned, that he may not want to leave New Zealand once he has arrived! 

I vow to not spend my life wrapped up in sporting achievements. I need to strike a balance. I have a husband too, a long suffering one that has been there at every turn in my sporting career. He deserves some time too. 

What do you do next? 

Live life to the full. Do everything you want to do. Don’t leave anything behind. You can’t take it with you, after all, can you?


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